“I can’t say when you’ll get love or how you’ll find it or even promise that you will. I can only say you are worthy of it and that it’s never too much to ask for it and that it’s not crazy to fear you’ll never have it again, even though your fears are probably wrong. Love is our essential nutrient. Without it, life has little meaning. It’s the best thing we have to give and the most valuable thing we receive. It’s worthy of all the hullabaloo.”
I love this quote by Cheryl Strayed and I am sure that many of you have either read her book “Wild” or have seen the Film with a magnificent Reese Witherspoon. This quote is so beautiful because it is true. Why else would we make such a fuss, such a HULLABALOO about it? Why else are there myriads of love songs, love poems, love sonnets and love films out there. Love is the one power that keeps us going, that gives us strength and most important of all, hope.
Someone once said to me that “LOVE IS ENOUGH” and I even have this stunningly beautiful book with the same title to prove it. I believed in these words, I trusted them – as so many of you probably have as well at some point in your life – and I trusted him… until I didn’t! Sometimes LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH and a person leaves your life without looking back once, without caring how broken you are. But you know that your love was true, real and strong, and you are one of the blessed ones that are capable of this amazing and unconditional love. That is when you know it was worth it, it was worth the HULLABALOO and it is exactly what makes you strong. It is when you know what was your yesterday and what you wish your today to be.
It is the kind of love that can make your world stand still, that is all consuming, that takes your breath away and is so easy to give because you have it in absolute abundance. Then there are people who are more concerned about their reputation, about social status and money, about comfort and do I pity these individuals. They may not get as badly hurt as those who truly love and give their all, but their world will never stand still, they will not have their breath taken away or care more about the wellbeing of the other than their own. These are the people that have no idea what the HULLABALOO is all about and may even shake their heads, especially when we fall in to that deep dark pit of sorrow when it goes wrong, when we suffer to the extent of almost giving ourselves up, terrified that we may never love again.
I have amazing news for you… read the quote again… Love is something that will always be there. Perhaps you are not yet ready to receive it because you are still processing something and not quite open to give love. But I truly believe that you can get there again if you really want to.
I wish for everyone to at least once find a love that makes your world stand still, that takes your breath away, that makes you know what deep love and happiness are, that great love that enfolds you, a love that sweeps you off your feet, a love that is gentle and kind and yet so passionate. A love that does not cease to excite you and makes you want to be the very best version of yourself. A love that makes you want only good and happiness for that one special person, even if it is without you and makes you unhappy.
The one thing you must know is that there is more than one love that is worth all the HULLABALOO out there for all of us, even if we may not believe it when we are hurting. It is somewhere out there waiting. And yes, I am a hopeless romantic and hopelessly optimistic… Sometimes, just sometimes…
hullabaloo [ huhl-uh-buh-loo ]
noun, plural hul·la·ba·loos
Definition: a clamorous noise or disturbance; uproar
Synonyms: fuss commotion uproar hubbub outcry furore ruckus ado palaver