WALKING AWAY FROM LOVE

Especially in these challenging times, where hope becomes more scarce by the day and we have less to look forward to than ever, the one thing that can keep us going is love. I know that may sound a bit trite, but some things just don’t get old and stay true. Just imagine what it’s like when something wonderful happens to you. Who do you want to share it with? I guess more with people you love and who love you than with people who don’t care about you. It is not without reason that love conquers (almost) all.

When we find love, this wild and passionate love, especially true love, and try to rationalise it – we are doomed. When we walk away from this kind of love out of reason or duty we deny ourselves the life we deserve and should live. In the course of my life I have learned a lot about love and yet, when it hits you, you realise that you know nothing, simply because every love is a little (or a lot) different. When you fall in love… well, what should I say? If you have fallen in love you know what I mean and if not this will all sound like gibberish anyway.

“You can’t blame someone for walking away if you didn’t do anything to make them stay.”

Love is the one thing that gives us the strength we need to conquer the impossible. It is what makes us invincible at times. Love is one of the few things in life that is abundant and limitless.

Love is limitless!

Love is always limitless
If we make the decision
To follow our heart and show
The bravery it takes to be happy
.

To choose duty over passion
Will always hurt everyone
While wanting passion and love
Is something to strive for.

It takes work to maintain passion
It takes effort to keep the fire burning
It takes faith to keep love alive
It takes bravery to see it through.

It is worth it though
as it will take you through
All the rocky parts
that will come with certainty.

I think we can all agree though that life is not a romance novel with a tacky H.E.A. And if you expect that, you will probably, in the end, always walk away from love, simply because love is not always perfect.

“Learning to walk away is hard but staying to suffer is harder.”- Mariel Avila 

I have walked away from love in my life and other times love walked away from me. Sometimes we walk away because the love for a person changes or just disappears. Perhaps the flame of love becomes so small that it is no longer sufficient. If, despite all efforts, you feel that the suffering is greater than the joy in the long run, you should check whether it makes more sense to release the person. Sometimes this is more merciful than unnecessarily prolonging something that only causes suffering on all sides. Life is simply too short for that.

“Most of us need something not to walk away from.”- Josh Stern

Far too often people look at what they have on the debit side in their lives and forget all the wonderful things they have on the credit side. We can be so quick to complain and feel sorry for ourselves. We simply need to remind ourselves more often of all the reasons to stay… We all know that people change and evolve over time and it helps to fact check once in a while if we can and want to keep up and live with these changes and the developments.

“The moment you feel like you have to prove your worth to someone is the moment to absolutely and utterly walk away.”- Alysia Harris

I was once in a relationship where this happened and I didn’t even realise it. I felt unworthy, thought I am not good enough. I even believed i was not worth being loved and began doubting myself. I thought I have to try harder and it took me some time to understand that it was not me, I was not at fault, I was just so deeply and blindly in love. It took me a long time to make my peace and to understand that that is my past and not my future.

“Never forget that walking away from something unhealthy is brave, even if you stumble a little on your way out the door.”

It is one of the hardest things to walk away from someone you still love. When you just don’t want to admit that the relationship has become not only unhealthy but downright toxic. The short moments of highs do not make up for the long moments of lows. When the balance is completely out of whack, it’s time to walk away. It really takes a fair amount of courage to turn your back on someone who still means a lot to you and walk away.

“If you start to miss me, remember….I didn’t walk away, you’re the one who let me go…”

It can be difficult to know when to fight for your love and when to let go! Joy and pain can lie so close together. In every relationship, in every love, no matter how great, there are ups and downs. The ups are to be enjoyed and savoured to the fullest, and the downs are to be overcome and endured together. This is possible as long as the love is strong enough, as long as the trust and mutual respect are intact and the willingness to endure these times is present in both partners.

“The worst mistake you can make, is to walk away from the person who actually stood there and waited for you.”

Finding out if it is it the right things to do to walk away from love or when it is worth fighting for it with all you’ve got is never simple. Sometimes you need a lot of time to figure this out and then again it can be crystal clear very quickly. But no matter what anyone else may try to tell you, take your time to find out for yourself whether you want to walk away or fight for your love. You are the only one who can listen to your heart.

Did you ever have to walk away from love or has love ever walked away from you? I would love to hear about it.

Wishing you a happy weekend!

Tanja

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