There is a phenomenon in the online world that is incredibly annoying and unpleasant but which seems to be becoming more and more common.


Ghosting, also known as simmering or icing, is a colloquial term which describes the practice of ending all communication and contact with another person without any apparent warning or justification and subsequently ignoring any attempts to reach out or communication made by said person.

My personal opinion concerning ghosting is very simple – it is a practice for cowards without any respect for others and without the slightest sense of honor. These people either never had a proper education, they have forgotten it or simply threw it overboard at one point.

When a relationship or a contact needs to end, I believe that every person deserves at least that minimum of respect to know about it and not need to second guess or speculate.

Especially in times when we are forced to move our lives more into the anonymous online world, respect and simple human kindness seem to be getting lost a little more every day.

It obviously appears so much easier to simply play 🙈🙉🙊, not bothering about what that might do to someone else or how that makes another person feel. I am not talking about people that don’t want to understand that you want to end communication or a relationship. I am talking about simply freezing someone out because you might be too comfortable or too cowardly to give that person an explanation, or even just a simple goodbye. Think twice before you do that to another human being. Consider that this person has feelings and deserves at least some form of closure.

This thoughtlessness has the power to hurt someone badly. Some things are or at least should be common decency.

Admittedly, I have had to experience this phenomenon first hand and it has bothered me for a long time and over and over again because I just can’t understand it – and you know by now that I have this urge to understand things.

So I know how it feels and it really is disparaging. It is quite simple – no one deserves to be ghosted…

I believe that it is this indifference towards others that is making our society increasingly and unnecessarily cruel. Perhaps I am old fashioned but respect and kindness for me never go out of fashion.

🎶My Song of the Week

📚My Poem of the Week

Is by T.O.W.


You showed your true face and lost your voice

When things got difficult when we were exposed

You made a clear but cowardly choice

Throwing me aside, you felt the need for me to be disposed

Only days before you had declared your flaming love for me

How I was woven inseparably into your being

That a life without me in it could not possibly be

And the next thing I know you are fleeing.

The act of a coward not owning up

To what he has done and how he feels

Of fear of what the outside world will see closeup

Terrified of losing his reputation so taking to his heels.

Knowing he will not ever come back

Breaks my heart in so many ways

Out of love with that coward whose heart is black

Knowing my heart will again see better days.


Another one from Lake Starnberg ❤️

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Have an amazing weekend and whatever you do, don’t ghost anyone! As always I would love to hear from you.


Tanja 🤗


  1. I completely agree. The most painful thing for me was when an ex girlfriend just ghosted me. No warning, no explanation. When I finally confronted her, her only response was that she did it because she thought I wouldnt be able to handle the end of our relationship. Funny that she thought I could handle being ghosted better

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