Hello and a warm welcome to my page and my blog. And as a blog always changes and evolves, I decided on another little update. I thought in the beginning of 2020 that it would be a great year and in a way it is, but considering the circumstances we are currently dealing with I suppose it might just not be the best year ever.

Now that the year is almost over I must say that it has been one of the worst I have ever encountered. Due to this and other things that have happened, my blog posts have changed quite signficantly over the past year. What started as a Rejection Challenge has become an insight of who I am, what I think and what I believe in. It is full of poetry and thoughts on relationships as well as everyday life. So the name that I originally used (REJECTION CHALLENGE) does not fit anymore. I never expected to keep this blog alive for so long and am really enjoying my journey.

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Why did I name my site REJECTION CHALLENGE?

I  started my own personal rejection challenge in September 2017 after reading the book “Rejection Proof” by Jia Jiang.

Very rarely have I been able to identify so easily and quickly with the author of a book and his challenges. But it is one thing to read about it, to agree and identify or to do something yourself, putting youself out there and making yourself vulnerable.

My name is Tanja Boness, I am now 53 years old, German, single mom living in a beautiful little village near Munich in Bavaria, Germany with my son  (17) and my daughter (21) goes to university in England. When I started this challenge I was often afraid to leave my comfort zone (that is so not comfortable but at least I know it), I was terrified of rejection, of not being good enough strong enough, young enough, smart enough, skilled enough, whatever enough…

Often I have had good ideas, inspirations and swallowed them because I was so unsure of myself and scared that others would reject my ideas and with that, reject me. Innumerable opportunities have passed and I dare not think of these. I had started doubting myself, my abilities more than ever and  I knew that if I didn’t start to make a change, I never would.

There are so many women (and of course men as well) out there that are in a similar situation that I am. I know I am not unique in my fears, my challenges that I face day by day, but I also know that sometimes you need someone to give you that push and for me it was Jia Jiang and his book Rejection Proof and a friend who gifted me the book.

Reading the book moved me to tears, recognizing my own fears and thoughts, it made me laugh and it was definitely an eye opener.

iEQ9-AccreditedPrac-logo-darkAnd even if I am currently working as a freelance Consultant and iEQ9 Enneagram Practitioner, Business and Life Coach and so much has changed in my life since I started this project, I still face  many challenges. So even if this began with rejection challenges, there is so much more from my journey of personal development and insights that I would like to share. I hope that perhaps one or the other post will be interesting or even helpful.

Let me know what you think and don’t be a stranger…